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The Reason Your Sorry Ass Never Seems To Change

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The Reason Your Sorry Ass Never Seems To Change

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The Reason Your Sorry Ass Never Seems To Change

The Reason Your Sorry Ass Never Seems To Change -- find out what keeps getting in the way of you accomplishing your goals, and what to do about it (#blogpost #resolutions #goals #simplify #achieve #accomplish #goalsetting #healthyboundaries #youcandoit #productivity) at http://ramonacreel.com/2018/01/15/organized-and-then-some/reason-you-never-change/So you’re looking to eliminate a few of those less-than-constructive-oh-my-god-I-need-to-stop-doing-that habits from your life. Go Team You!

(And not that I don’t trust you to goal-set like a boss — but just to be on the safe side, let’s make sure you’re doing this mess the right way. M’kay?)

Humor me with a look at the year’s list of commandments. Do you see “thou shalt not” a metric-fuckton more than “thou shall?” Does the word “don’t” pop up at a rate ten times that of its contraction-free-rival “do?” I hate to tell you this honeypot, but you’ve set yourself up for defeat.

Whether you’re trying to quit smoking or nose-picking or procrastinating, how you utter that statement of intent matters just as much as the danged resolution itself. Method-of-framing-meets-choice-of-language can either shove you over the finish line or flush every bit of set-forth-effort down the ol’ commode.

Why, I ask, make things any harder? (Unless you really really LIKE the feel of a podiatric bullet wound.)

Telling yourself to “never eat sugar again” is not only ridiculously unrealistic, it also sounds incredibly hateful and punitive — sanctionary-imposition-as-preventative-punishment-for-an-as-yet-uncommitted-crime. The last thing you want when working toward becoming a more quality you, is to start the wholesale-taking-away-of-all-in-the-world-that’s-enjoyable. (Talk about a recipe for resentment!)

But what if you were to replace something “bad” with something “good?” Hey — now there’s an idea!

Maybe it’s time to stop slamming your cranium against the same old brick partition. (I’ve got a headache just watching you, and all that blood dripping into your eyes has got to be screwing with your vision.) Tell me which promise (“I’ll never eat another chocolate chip cookie in my life because I know they’re terrible for me” — or “I’ll enjoy a big heaping bowl of cherries whenever the sweet-munchies hit, savoring every burst of fruity goodness”) immediately strikes you as the more-attractive-and-long-term-feasible.

Do I even need to ask?

The first sounds like you’re being denied something wonderful (which, let’s face it — you are). The second is a reward, a splurge, an indulgence. And you’re a hell of a lot more likely to follow through on a pledge to do something enjoyable, than when your objective creates guaranteed heartache right from the start!

If you’re tired of goals that browbeat you into behaving the “right” way (and watching your endeavors repeatedly flame out like napalm birthday candle), why not try a positively proactive approach this year?

  • instead of “stop working late,” try “leave on time each day for quality time at home with the fam”
  • instead of “stop eating junk food,” try “have a full serving of my fave fruit/veg with every meal”
  • instead of “stop smoking,” try “give myself a walk-outside-in-the-fresh-air gift when I crave nicotine”
  • instead of “stop biting my nails,” try “treat myself to a manicure when I feel the urge to gnaw”
  • instead of “stop piling paper,” try “set aside time clear my desk off each day before five-o’clock”
  • instead of “stop being late,” try “leave the house 15 minutes earlier than necessary so I’m not rushed”
  • instead of “stop being so negative,” try “start each day by thinking of one thing I’m grateful for”
  • instead of “stop criticizing my husband,” try “give sweetie a compliment as soon as he comes home”

I would suggest shoving that stick right up the carrot’s ass and dipping the whole thing in cheese — but I personally can’t stand raw carrots, so I’ve never seen them as much of an incentive. (Even in fondue.) So I vote we swap that grody-orange-root-vegetable for a humongous strawberry coated in chocolate!

 

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