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Being Fruitful Without Multiplying
Stories And Essays From Around The World

Society teaches us that women who do not bear children will never feel complete. But there are many whose happiness is found through other forms of creativity — this book gives them a chance to be heard. We give voice to individuals everywhere who have chosen not to bear children. We are grateful to our generous contributors, willing to reveal the intimate details of their private lives. We were comforted by hearing the stories of others who share our views — we hope others will be comforted as well.

Have you ever been asked whether you have children?

As I travel the country as a full-time RVer, folks often ask if I have children. When I respond that I’m “child-free,” most people have no clue what that means. I explain that I don’t want to have children — an entirely foreign concept to the majority of Americans. Some are fascinated by the possibilities of life without kids, but others can’t even begin to understand why I would make such a bizarre life choice.

How do you respond?

I like to tell people that I had a maternal instinct once when I was about twelve — but then it went away and has never bothered me since. Perhaps it’s genetic. My friends couldn’t wait to be old enough to babysit, but I didn’t want to look after other people’s kids. Even the good ones were too much work — keeping them entertained and out of trouble until their parents came home.

Did you have dolls as a little girl?

Oh sure, I played with dolls, but I always preferred the adventures of my adult Barbies to babies that cried and peed and spit up. Barbie’s pink glamour camper made a lasting impression on my young mind — that must be why I chose to travel instead of procreate!

How do you respond to accusations of “child-hating?”

It’s not that I dislike children as a species. I’m quite fond of the “good” ones — laughing toddlers and sharp-witted adolescents and teens with strong, independent personalities. But I have very little tolerance for kids who are allowed by their parents to act like brats — and never once did I feel the urge to take one home with me. I’m completely content to play with them, get them wound up, and give them back to their parents. I compare a child to a Picasso hanging in a museum. I don’t have to own it to enjoy it!

How does child-freedom impact your romantic relationship?

Fortunately I found a man who has always agreed with me about kids — his first birthday gift to me after we started dating was a vasectomy, and that was the best present I’ve ever been given! The thing is, he’s great with kids. All the little ones love “Uncle Ben” — he plays cars and blocks and hide-and-seek with them (while I sit on the couch with mom drinking a glass of wine). He just doesn’t need any of his own to be happy.

What has child-freedom allowed you to do?

Ever since I hit the road as a full-time RVer, I’ve been having too much fun to even consider cluttering things up with kids. I go where I want, when I want, without worrying about school vacations and truancy officers. I can eat strange, exotic food instead of chicken fingers. I live simply, in less-than-200-square feet, entirely sans kindercrap. I can focus on my own writing and art projects instead of spending my time attending PTA meetings. I’ve traded diapers and preschools and college funds for freedom, leisure time, and personal fulfillment. I can’t imagine having to park in one place for the next eighteen years, putting my dreams and goals off until the nest was emptied, missing out on the amazing experiences I have regularly while traveling
the country. Call it selfish if you want. I call it “living the life.”

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Ramona Creel is an award-winning 15-year veteran organizer and member of the National Association Of Professional Organizers. As well as having birthed “The A-To-Z Of Getting Organized,” Ramona is also the author of “The Professional Organizer’s Bible: A Slightly Irreverent And Completely Unorthodox Guide For Turning Clutter Into A Career”—and the creator of more than 200 “quick-start” business tools and templates for use by productivity professionals. She writes seven different blogs, has worked with hundreds of clients, and has delivered scores of presentations on getting organized. Ramona resides on the roads of America as a full-time RVer—living and working in a 29-foot Airstream. Learn more at and

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